My Monday morning began with a message:
“I’ve had a life changing event occur and I am cleaning up my life…including my friends…if you want to stay my friend let me know…if not…”
This message was sent by someone I had been talking to a few months ago. Why did we stop talking?
He constantly whined about his ex-girlfriend.
Said he wanted to find another woman just like her. *cringe*
Constantly tried to figure out why he was not good enough for her.
Constantly put down her current boyfriend and said, “She will never love him as much as she loved me.” (Which really means he will never love anyone as much as he did her.)
Constantly put himself down…said he knew he was unattractive when in reality, he is a very handsome man.
I told him from the beginning I would NOT date him because he was hung up on his ex and had too many issues to work through. When I reminded him of this at one point and told him we are not in a relationship his response was, “What do you mean by that?”
That was my breaking point. I cracked under the all the frustration of trying to communicate with him as if he were a normal, sane person. I told him I was not his therapist and could not be his friend and I was not going to sugar coat it…it was all him.
Even saying all that, I continued to get messages:
“Are you mad at me?”
“I’m doing much better now.”
“Don’t you want to talk to me anymore?”
“I won’t bug you anymore.”
“I’m confused now.”
“Why do I feel so alone all of the sudden?”
“It’s ok…I wouldn’t blame you if you didn’t want to talk to me.”
Which brings me back to this morning’s message to which I did not respond so a few hours later I received, “GOOD BYE!!”
I only wish it were good bye but I know in a week or two I will receive yet another message. He can have the last word over and over and over again. I have no desire to respond to his messages or engage him in a conversation to find out what his ‘life changing event’ is.
Just leave me alone!!!!
Where are the normal men? I’m on the verge of needing my own therapist!!