I don’t know about everyone else out there but it takes me to while to feel comfortable about giving my phone number to a complete stranger.
Do you blame me? Look at my history of bad dates!!
Last spring, I gave my number to a guy I met online just as I was leaving for work. I told him I did not take personal calls at work and would talk to him that evening.
As I arrived at work, my phone rang. I answered my phone saying, “I told you I did not take personal calls at work.”
His response, “Oh, I’m sure you can make an exception for me.”
Me: “No I can’t.”
Him: “Well then call me on your break.”
Him: “Call me on your lunch.”
Him: “Ok fine. I’ll talk to you later but I find it very odd you won’t talk to me.”
Well I found it very disrespectful that he called me when I told him I don’t take personal calls at work.
He called three more times that day while I was working. I did not answer any of his calls.
By the time I got home, my phone was ringing again. This time I answered.
Him: “Hey, I was hoping you were off work by now. I’m going to to come take you out for dinner Friday night.” (He was not asking me. He was telling me.)
Me: “My son has tournament ball games all weekend. I can’t.”
Him: “Then we’ll go out Saturday night.”
Me: “No, I can’t. I will be at my son’s ball games.”
Him: (yelling angrily) “You need to take down your dating profile. You are obviously NOT interested in dating. You just like to jerk men around.”
Me: “No, I’m not blowing off my son’s ball games for anyone. He’s my son. You’re a stranger.”
Him: “Whatever. Bye.”
Ten minutes later he calls back. He left a voicemail, “Hey honey, I just wanted to say I was sorry. I understand your son comes first. I’m not ready to give up on you just yet baby so please call me back.”
NO THANK YOU MR. BIPOLAR!!!
This is a prime example of why I’m reluctant to give out my number so quickly. The men who are patient and don’t mind exchanging several messages first are the ones I end up sharing my digits with. The men who rant and rave when I won’t just hand it over are the exact ones I’m trying to avoid!!
But I am curious…what’s your take on this? Do you give out your number right away?