To Give or Not to Give

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I don’t know about everyone else out there but it takes me to while to feel comfortable about giving my phone number to a complete stranger.

Do you blame me? Look at my history of bad dates!!

Last spring, I gave my number to a guy I met online just as I was leaving for work. I told him I did not take personal calls at work and would talk to him that evening.

As I arrived at work, my phone rang. I answered my phone saying, “I told you I did not take personal calls at work.”

His response, “Oh, I’m sure you can make an exception for me.”

Me: “No I can’t.”

Him: “Well then call me on your break.”

Me: “No.”

Him: “Call me on your lunch.”

Me: “No.”

Him: “Ok fine. I’ll talk to you later but I find it very odd you won’t talk to me.”

Well I found it very disrespectful that he called me when I told him I don’t take personal calls at work.

He called three more times that day while I was working. I did not answer any of his calls.

By the time I got home, my phone was ringing again. This time I answered.

Him: “Hey, I was hoping you were off work by now. I’m going to to come take you out for dinner Friday night.” (He was not asking me. He was telling me.)

Me: “My son has tournament ball games all weekend. I can’t.”

Him: “Then we’ll go out Saturday night.”

Me: “No, I can’t. I will be at my son’s ball games.”

Him: (yelling angrily) “You need to take down your dating profile. You are obviously NOT interested in dating. You just like to jerk men around.”

Me: “No, I’m not blowing off my son’s ball games for anyone. He’s my son. You’re a stranger.”

Him: “Whatever. Bye.”

Ten minutes later he calls back. He left a voicemail, “Hey honey, I just wanted to say I was sorry. I understand your son comes first. I’m not ready to give up on you just yet baby so please call me back.”


This is a prime example of why I’m reluctant to give out my number so quickly. The men who are patient and don’t mind exchanging several messages first are the ones I end up sharing my digits with. The men who rant and rave when I won’t just hand it over are the exact ones I’m trying to avoid!!

But I am curious…what’s your take on this? Do you give out your number right away?

2 thoughts on “To Give or Not to Give

  1. Been quite a while since I’ve visited blog world as a visitor. Forgot how funny your posts were amidst their expressions of truth.

    To answer your Q here, NO ladies, don’t be in the habit of giving your number so freely to men so quickly. If there isn’t a way to assure you’ll see him again, leave it to God unless there’s something that makes you feel ultra-comfortable about doing it. Guys that ask for a number that quick ought to be very scrutinized for depth and genuineness of character before giving it.

    And I would also say not to give it out to keep from the occasional idiot guy who is stalkish or even possibly worse.

    Hope you’re well, peace and grace…

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